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Early Signs of Gender Identity

Elliot Page struggled for years to be still enough to write because his energy was spent managing internal discomfort. After receiving gender-affirming care, he finally found the peace needed to share his story to counter public misinformation. By looking back at his life, he works to separate his true self from what others expected of him, hoping to help others feel less alone. His journey has not been simple, as he explains that gender and sexuality are two different things that evolved over time.

At four years old, attending a preschool in Halifax, Elliot possessed a pure understanding that he was not a girl. This internal reality manifested in small, private ways, such as trying to stand while using the bathroom. He held a deep-seated hope that his physical body would eventually align with his spirit. While other children moved through the world with a sense of belonging, Elliot felt a distinct severing from his female peers.

Elliot and his mother lived in the Hydrostone neighborhood of Halifax, where she raised him as a single parent. Despite her long days as a French teacher, she always found the energy to engage in his world, acting as a judge for bathtub diving competitions. In the bathtub, Elliot would reenact scenes from favorite movies, casting himself as the heroic male lead. These private fantasies allowed him to feel like the person he knew himself to be, providing a sense of competence that felt out of reach in the outside world.

The disconnect between his internal self and his body became more painful as he approached puberty. However, a small moment of inclusion offered a powerful glimpse of freedom during a summer pool party. The host offered Elliot a pair of his son’s red swim trunks to wear in the backyard pool, and the dread of wearing a traditional swimsuit vanished. Standing on the edge of the tub to see himself in the mirror, he felt a rush of genuine happiness because his body finally felt like his own.